I receive so many blog questions, and also work with so many men and women who are in relationships where on an average day, they fluctuate between should I stay or should I go, should I fight for my ex or should I give up.
One day they write me telling me they do not think the relationship is going any where, they are not happy, they do not feel loved by this person and can not get him or her to open up. They are ready to quit because they believe they deserve better – deserve to be loved.
The next day I receive yet another email saying they love their ex so much and think things will work out. They tell me their ex is trying and they know (in their own way) their ex loves them. They want to give the relationship another chance.
But two days later, I get yet another email saying “It’s over. I can’t take this anymore”.
By now you know the drill, one week later they are so much in love and want to fight for the person they love.
Anxiety and fear tends to direct human behaviour towards the “safest” option often without us even realizing it. We fluctuate in our decisions based on what we think and feel at the time.
Decisions that are then made around avoiding what we don’t want rather than what we want are often not the best decisions.
As your coach, I help you slow down and focus your words and actions towards what you want rather trying to avoid what you don’t want.