Dealing with someone suffering with depression can be difficult, especially when their depression is creating all sorts of problems when trying to attract them back. How you respond and communicate with your depressed ex makes a big difference. Sometimes knowing how your responses help or worsen your ex’s depression can be the difference between whether or not your relationship will weather the difficult times.
One of the Dos and Don’ts In The Initial Stages listed in Dating Your Ex is not talking about the old relationship, or at least bringing it up yourself. The chances of finding yourselves back in the old dynamic and old relationship are so high, not to mention getting caught up in the emotions of the break-up.
In the initial stages and even throughout the process of trying to attract back your ex, it’s good practice to keep most conversations with your ex positive and mostly about what’s going on day to day, or week to week depending on how often you contact each other. It doesn’t mean you can’t talk about the past or share your dreams for the future, it means the majority of your conversations should be in the ‘present’.
Sometimes however, it is not possible to have positive and uplifting conversations all the time, and in some cases trying to be ‘positive’ or putting a silver lining to a situation that requires you to listen and respond with empathy may actually hurt than help.
Make sure you emotionally connect with your ex by responding to their emotions and not just tying to make every chat or conversation light and funny.