I’m a learn-by-doing and invested in your relationship’s success type of relationship coach, and what I’m really good at is understanding your insecure attachment dynamic and helping you change it to a more secure dynamic. I deliver immediate actionable steps and strategic advice specific to your break-up situation or relationship. You’ll leave the coaching session feeling confident about your next steps and/or decisions.
The break-up doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship.
I’m someone who strongly believes that everyone is flawed in some way or another, people are not disposable just because they’re not “perfect” and all relationships need some work. I also don’t easily give up on love. I believe (and proven right each day) that it’s not over-OVER until there is absolutely nothing left that you can do to make the relationship work. As long as there is still something you can do, in my book, it’s not over-OVER. I’ll fight for your relationship as long as you still have the fight in you.
1) I use attachment styles as a tool for getting back an ex
Attachment theory is no ‘magic wand” or be-it-all because we’re more than our attachment style. But attachment theory in my opinion is the most accurate science-based relationship framework to date. In my decades of helping exes get back together, I’ve seen more people get back together with the help of attachment styles than ever before. If you well-educated on attachment styles, you’re already steps ahead in the process.
2) Most coaches advice “no contact”, I do NOT
I’m just going to put it put there, people who are attracted to my advice do not want to do “no contact”. They want to try to rebuild the connection they had through open lines of communication but without pushing their ex further away or appearing needy. I help you create a healthy balance between connection and giving yourselves enough space to work through your individual issues; and issues in the relationship.
3) I do not believe in tricks or manipulation
I do not see attachment styles as a “set of tricks” to use to get an ex back. I use attachment styles as a tool to provide safety, security, care, love; and for personal growth.
The biggest difference working with me is that there is no manipulation, mind games or trickery. You will feel good about yourself knowing you approached things from a secure attachment, and your ex came back because they love you and want to be with you, and not because you manipulated or tricked them into coming back. And you’ll continue to feel confident in and with your relationship as you become more and more secure.
4) I help you become more securely attached
I’m a relationship coach and not a personal development coach. Meaning, I don’t specifically work on how to change your attachment style, instead I work with you to help you consistently model secure attachment thought processes and behaviours and practice being safe and providing safety in a relationship. With this approach you’re more able to connect attachment theory, what you learn on your own through research and/or in therapy and real-world situations.
5) I help you transform your relationship for the better
The focus of my work is not just to help you get back together with your ex or “get along” with an avoidant for example. My goal is to permanently end an anxious-avoidant dynamic by helping you approach attracting back your ex from a secure perspective so you can change an anxious-avoidant dynamic to a healthier and secure dynamic.
I know from experience that as long as both of you still have attachment related triggers, you will always have problems related to your attachment styles. I’ll help you manage these triggers better as you work on getting back with your ex and over time permanently end the anxious-avoidant dynamic.
I’m happy to answer any questions you may have about your ex’s attachment style and what you can do to successfully get back together; AND also answer any questions on how to become more secure in your thinking and responses, and gradually change your internal working model and attachment scripts.
6) In me, you have a coach, secure base and friend
I do my best to understand your relationship and attachment dynamics and keep you grounded so you are focused on the bigger picture and end game. I try as much as time allows to be the secure base support that is consistently available to you in a meaningful and authentic way through phone sessions and email coaching.
My personal belief is that if I can accurately reflect back to you your emotional experience in a way that makes you feel understood and safe to reach out, connect and engage your ex in a positive way, and with the work you are doing on yourself, you will be less anxious and freer to experiment your new behaviours and a securely attached way of relating with your ex.
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